|
james,
you are right. being underweight is just as much of an issue as being overweight. and it is just as counter productive to tell them they are too thin. both are serious health factors.
i agree with the other posts though, terrible idea to tell someone, anyone they are too thin or too heavy. and as for "This is about what's in your mind, not what's on your thighs," i couldn't have said it better. this is true especially for people, not just women but mainly women, dealing with the underweight issue.
i'm sure you are a very intelligent and wonderful guy, james, but understand that telling any woman they look too fat or too skinny is only going to get you put in the dog house fast. might even get you smacked across the face. and i know you're just trying to help. my brother is very much the same way. he and his wife both lost a lot of weight by living by some book they read. he's very concerned about me and my parent's and want us to get this book so we can start losing weight and feeling good. but sometimes he goes about telling us that in a very bad way. but deep down we know he's just trying to help and that he loves us. so i think it would be best to learn how to help/tell someone they need to gain/lose weight. i understand your heart is in the right place, but be a little more diplomatic in your approach.
shelley j
sigma k
|