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>A better approach might be teling her she looks unhealthy and unattractive because of a lack of muscle tone.
James, one 18-year-old female saying this to another in ANY context is walking on thin, thin ice.
I honestly think most men don't realize how important weight is to a lot of college-age women (of all sizes), or just how sensitive they may be to criticism about it. The girl with the perfect body everyone envies probably cries every time she shops for a swimsuit. This is about what's in your mind, not what's on your thighs.
Telling a friend that she looks unhealthy and unattractive and has no muscle tone is a good way to lose a friend and/or start a war in the chapter.
If I had a friend who I thought was hurting herself with an eating disorder, I wouldn't say word one about how she looked, good or bad. I'd say, "I'm worried about you...I don't want anything to happen to you. If you want to go to College Health Services and see if they can help, I'll come with."
If she refuses help, it's like a drug addiction; nothing you say will make her stop. She needs to want help.
Ivy
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