[FuzzieAlum]

The thing is, I don't think someone new, especially non-Greek, knows what is controversial. When I went through rush, it never occurred to me not to ask about parties or boys! How was I supposed to know, with no Greeks in my family and no GC to help me out? Even the Greeks I knew had only just recently joined through informal, so they couldn't give me much advice. I had another friend who was totally into joining a sorority in college, and she had talked about them some in our last year of hs, and I took her word as gospel. Looking back, of course, what did she know?

I mean, obviously it would be controversial to ask, "So, I hear you are really ugly, is that true?" - which is common sense outside of Greekdom as well. If the only people you know are non-Greek, some of them will provide you with some info on Greek life, some true, some false, but if you have reason to believe they know more than you do, you'll at least put some weight to what they say. The thing is, non-Greeks DON'T believe that they don't know all there is to know about Greek life! They watched Legally Blonde and they know that one guy who pledged, and they think they have the scoop. So they'll tell you their opinions with an air of authority.

I don't think we should be hard on someone just looking into the Greek scene who asks questions that while they may seem obvious to taboo to us just aren't like that to outsiders.