There is definitely that pressure for some girls. We had a Pi Phi leg in my pledge class. The cool thing is that her mom never had told her which sorority she was a sister of in college. She had known that her mom was in a sorority, and knew that she wanted to rush when she got to college. Come pref night, she called her mom stressed. She told her mom that she was preffing Pi Phi and Kappa and was torn. Her mom started crying on the phone and said that she was proud that her daughter had come this far and chosen everything on her own. She then said "Honey, you go wherever you can call home and wherever you can call the girls your sisters, but if I had to choose for you, I would hope that you find it in Pi Phi tonight." The daughter started crying and went and filled out her pref card. I am now proud to say that I can call this girl my sister. Her mother came to our initiation and it was so touching.
Another guy in Sigma Chi didn't know that his father was a Sigma Chi until he was present at his initiation ritual.
I guess it shows that you end up where you belong.
But girls shouldn't feel pressure. In fact three of our girls were DG legacies and preffed Pi Phi and DG and went Pi Phi. A hard decision, but the mothers and sisters supported them because they wanted the girls to experience the same joy that they did through the sorority experience.
I have a younger sister and she already wants to go Pi Phi. But I realize that if she attends a different university, I will be there for her and be proud of her simply being greek.
In order to avoid the whole legacy rut, just send in the legacy rec to the specific chapter and have the rushee not mention it on the Panhell recruitment form at the beggining of rush.
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