Aww....girl! I am so with you! *hugs* Although I am not shy in the least, I feel very very uncomfortable asking people to hang out etc... Due to work, I have no social life. The little bit of social life I could get is demolished by the fact that I do not have a driver's license.
Right now, I am a part of the newly reformed Pittsburgh AA. My hesitation to get to know sisters from other chaptes definitely comes from maybe I'm not *KD* enough for them. Not that I do not have KD in my heart, but my chapter closed this past year. Sometimes I feel like people judge me by that and think that I'm somehow flawed or don't care or something. Who wants to be the kiss of death? hehe
Things will get better for you! Maybe get in contact with the close by alum group through e-mail. I always find that it's easier to connect with someone online before you do so in real life. Then you have already "felt the other person out" so to speak.
Alas....this post is getting too long. Quit reading my ramblings and get out there and show off your KD pride!!