We don't deal with recs, so I can't answer that for your.
We have guestbooks to keep track of rushees that come to the parties. Some groups have such large parties, that it's often times hard to keep track of everyone. It helps us not let anyone slip through the cracks. We also do it because our campus stopped us from taking polaroids of the girls when they came in to help us remember everyone.
The reasons people are cut...well, I can say that while it may offer closure, it's just like pouring salt in an open wound if you ask me. I didn't get cut from my pref houses, but I could imagine that if I did, I would rather just forget it and move on. And besides, does it matter??
Legacies are given special consideration because they are a blood relative of a sister. While the woman may or may not choose to become a sister, we have a current sister's feelings to worry about. I can't imagine that if I had a daughter or sister who wanted to rush D Phi E, and not getting a bid. It's respect, but more than that, it's loyalty. BUT, if she doesn't fit the ideals of the group, then I wouldn't encourage her in the first place.
Big rushes or small rushes, it's up to the chapter to fill their time wisely. It's unfortunate that your parties were filled with 20 minutes of singing and only 10 minutes of conversation. Maybe they should rethink that! Our parties were much different.
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