As to why rushees don't get a reason, it could be for legal reasons--you could sue someone for proclaiming something bad about you! Also, a lot of times there's just not a reason (as many members put in a thread about a month ago); there are bunches of great rushees and quota won't allow you to take them all.
Regarding legacies: when I was a rushee, I wanted to know why they had an easier time making it too because I knew many people who got cut were sharper, smarter, cuter, whatever than the legacies. As a member, I would sometimes cringe when a particularly awful legacy came through, knowing that we wouldn't want her with her stellar 1.5 average or her fabulous reputation (jk!)
As the mom of 9 daughters, I understand now. There's that bond you want to share..you want your daughter to be accepted and know about the traditions, the secrets, and the love you've found. I realize that with few Pi Phi chapters around, the chances I may get a Pi Phi aren't big and it's frustrating.
However, NPC's rules are only that a legacy must receive a bid to the first set of invitationals and that if she gets an invitation to prefs, she must be put on the bid list. I think that's sensible and preserves feelings without forcing choices. I've heard heard that huge numbers of legacies get cut at the bigger schools where there are more legacies to each sorority that spots in each pledge class.
But as someone who rushed as a junior, I know exactly where you're coming from...
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