Coming from a non_greek who has a close friend who was hurt by her legacy status, I would really ask that you give him a chance. My friend and I were both not accepted in undrgrad, and her mom was more than shocked and dismayed. It was a horrible time, National was called, regional officers were written to, etc etc. and my friend was a pariah on campus after her mom did all of that. I don't want you,as a member to potentially go through what happened, and if your org is in this young man's heart, I don't him to go through that pain, which does last.
Something else to consider: I know young women who have been transformed for the better after being granted membership. One girl I didn't even KNOW until after she crossed, and she gained to confidence to run for student government. We became pretty good acquaintences, never would have happened if she hadn't become a member and gotten support from those women.
Just my $0.04.
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