With the doubts you are having, I would normally suggest waiting a semester or two to rush. But you are going to a large Southern state school with an ENORMOUS greek system. It is very difficult to get a bid if you rush as a sophomore. I can tell you that you DON'T have to go to every mixer (but why you wouldn't want to is beyond me), you can plan around chapter meetings, you can still get good grades (I am in the Honors Program and have a 3.6 GPA), and you can have non-greek friends and boyfriends. By joining a sorority, you do gain a whole new family of girls you will WANT to hang out with all the time b/c you'll think they're just the awesomest girls ever. But the point of a sorority is not to alienate you from every other aspect of college life. Your sisters will want you to be involved. They'll be proud of you when you get good grades. They'll want to meet your non-greek friends (b/c a change of scenery is always refreshing). A sorority is a support system for all the things you want to do; it's not this exclusive thing where you have to be initiated to even have a conversation with them. Go through rush. If you hate it, you don't have to accept a bid. But my guess (from my own observations of girls in your exact same position) is that you will end up loving it and want to be in a sorority more than anything. It's normal to be scared and doubtful, but it's so worth it! Good luck!
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