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1. Women need to stop giving men stream of consciousness reports of their feelings, at the moment they have them.
Men generally don't know how to process that information. Are we supposed to apologize, make it right, argue, just listen, or what?
2. Women need to stop trying to get us to be in the same emotional mood they are.
A lot of time women seem to get upset when men aren't upset when they are. So they proceed to try and get us upset so they can feel better.
Then when they feel better we are left upset.
Men really aren't taught to be that way.
3. Women need to understand that victimizing us because they are having a bad day is not endearing. It weakens the relationship.
Come on men . . . its happened to all of us. The woman is in a bad mood, and instead of letting us help her out of it, she decides to be short and moody with us. For hours!
4. Women need to tell men what is wrong upfront!
Often times women will ruin an entire evening because something is bothering them but they don't want to spill it. You have to go through the whole "words women use cycle" (see thread) with a lot of fines and whatevahs.
Until finally they spill out at the end of the night after ruining dinner and a movie for us men. Wasted money for us.
I guess its part of the anger (make men suffer), argument (hash the problem out), redemption (usually affection/sex) cycle.
*sigh* I understand that we can't always skip from anger straight to redemption but why oh why can't we hash everything out earlier?
Must men ruin hours of their lives because women can't get a grip on their neurosis?
Why do women do this?
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