Newbie,
You don't have to act goody-goody, but you should be aware enough to know that they are being dishonest. A person cannot, on behalf of the chapter, tell you that you will get a bid. After all, the entire chapter votes on potential members and they do so anonymously. A member can, for example, tell you that she thinks you'd make a great member, but a single member cannot speak on behalf of the chapter and tell you that you will get a bid.
It is against NPC rules to promise a bid to a member. You can report this infraction to the Greek Life Office after the party and have the situation dealt with according to NPC policy.
There are chapters out there that want to keep as many girls coming back to as many parties as possible. To that end, they will say and do things that are not right. If a chapter promises you a bid, don't believe them. Don't call them a liar, obviously, but take the statement with a grain of salt and a healthy dose of reality. Like I said earlier, your opportunity to receive a bid is based on the entire chapter's vote, not just one person's opinion. In my experience, girls that are promised bids and, as a result, intentionally single preference (suicide bid), are usually left standing on the sidelines come Bid Day.
Go in with your eyes open, go with your gut feeling and preference a group that really represents who you are and can offer you opportunities for growth. I've said this many times - look for the group that is already like you, not the group you want to be like.
Good Luck!
B.
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