I'm sorry you've got such a tough situation Danielle! Especially when you're just starting out with the AA. I think contacting a N.O. could be really beneficial to you. They're not just there to get people in trouble; they are also around to help wherever they can. Also I think posting on the Yahoo group would be ok - then you could get some feedback without feeling like you're "telling" on the chapter.
Just my two cents!
Lindsay