I got engaged last year (am no longer but that's besides the point) and when he proposed he had to leave immediately for Austin the next day. Because I felt it was very important to tell my family together, he came back to visit two weeks later.
Inbetween that time I had to tell my mother...who was a little schocked but happy. I made her keep it a secret from my father (which she'd never done in all 23 years of marriage). Needless to say the family was very happy...but that was a different situation.
First of all, let me say this...family views are very important. This may sound trite, but I take to heart what my family thinks of the guys I date...and the reason is because I've dated some losers in the past and they knew it well before I could see it. Granted your situation is different and based off of a stereotype and race...but you have to determine a few things:
1) Am I really happy with this man because of what he means to me, or is it because my parents dissapprove?
2) Am I willing to sacrifice my family relationship?
3) Am I rushing into this?
I don't want to offend you but this is a big, LIFETIME decision...one I just got out of. Please don't take my recent unengagement as bitterness...I just know that us women get swept off our feet sometimes and don't necessarily want to see some truths or think things through because we are emotion based creatures.
All the best to you and congratulations!
Hootie
