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Old 09-08-2002, 10:13 PM
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I can only add one more tidbit of advice, and this is from someone who's been there and done that.

Do not let your long-distance boyfriend get in the way of your having a wonderful freshman experience.

Now, I'm not implying that he would intentionally get in your way. But I have seen way too many people come to college and spend all their time on the phone/computer with their significant other from back home. They hide in their rooms and don't have a full life because a huge chunk of them is always off thinking about that person. All they ever talk about is that person.

I made a long-distance relationship work through my freshman year, and I still had a full experience. I was a member of several organizations and got to know tons of people. I set myself up with a wonderful local support network that caught me when the relationship ended.

My roommate also had a long-distance relationship. She let it consume her. All she ever did was study and talk to him. She visited him every weekend. She had about three friends. When that relationship turned sour, she didn't have any network of support. She had to go about the daunting freshman tasks of making friends and meeting people as a sophomore, when all the rest of us were pretty well set into the way we lived. She's a senior now and it still is a problem for her.

So yes, you are going to be miserable the first week or so. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's the truth. You'll be even more miserable than your "unattatched" companions because you have that close relationship that you're leaving behind. But it'll get better. Just don't turn to him and only him for support.

And, of course, Go Greek!
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