[AOIIalum]

Well said, imsohappythatiama. If any PNM leaves a party and feels bad, something is wrong. We don't know the entire story and that's fine. All we know is someone walked out of a sorority recruitment party and felt unwelcome. She may have been released for a good reason. She could have possibly been released because she didn't talk much at the party. If that could possibly be the case then she feels like she knows why--because her conversation was monopolized by another and when she got to speak her comments or questions were discounted by the sister paired with her. That should never happen. In addition, no PNM should even feel as if it happened. Period.

Yes, as Leslie pointed out, we should remember that emotions are heightened and perceptions really are affected during the process. We don't know how every campus works or how each chapter of each sorority is on every campus--even within our own organizations. Should we stop cheering on PNMs? Nope. Should we stop being supportive if the PNMs story doesn't turn out the way she expected? Nope. Should we not post a thought or a comment that may help the PNM through a rough time? Nope, as long as we do so respectfully. I think we as a group have consistently done so, but we don't hesitate to question or call out if something just doesn't sound right.

Do people get hurt during recruitment? Sure, on all sides. Do we know the PNMs who post on here? Most of the time, no. Is it fair to say that XYZ to change their recruitment because they dropped WendyPNM? No, of course not. I do think it's fair to say that XYZ should rethink their recruitment preparations because WendyPNM walked out of their party feeling like she wasn't welcome. There's a big difference, and I think that's the point many of us have been trying to make.

Christin