TBSG-
I am so sorry to hear what happened to you.
I hope that you will keep your mind open to what the other gals on here are talking about (locals, COBing)... but I want to put my $.02 in on Alpha Phi Omega. True, it may not be the type of "sisterhood" you were looking for (female members aren't even called sisters, everyone's a brother), but I have made some of the closest and truest friendships and had some of the greatest experiences of my lifetime with APO. Please consider us as an option!
GOOD LUCK IN WHATEVER YOU DO!!!
***HUGS***
Nicole