[PM_Mama00]

I understand what you're saying about strengthening (spelling?) the bonds of our sisterhood. Our Greek system is so small, that everyone knows everyone's business, so drama is always around. The sisters who are still active do have strong bonds, and the 3 girls that I mentioned did too. My big sis left becuz she wasn't happy anymore. The reason why I don't like her is because after she started acting too good for me, and treating me like crap, other sisters tooks me in and we started hanging out a lot. She got an attitude about it all the time cuz she never really like the sister who became my new friend, mainly because everyone envied her. I guess she just didn't get her way, so her and another sister left. Keep in mind these are sisters who constantly complained about the rules, wanted to do things that are considered hazing (nothing physically or mentally hurtful, but still considered hazing), and when things didn't go their way, they began to separate themselves.

The other two that recently left, decided to because, well, I don't even know. They were sick of people not showing up for things, and one time when they went in place of people, they demanded praise, even tho people said thank you. Then they started an email war between the chapter, which wasn't really cool. Everyone thinks that one left because of the other, but who knows. It's a lil suspicious when she spends like $300 almost every month on Phi Mu stuff. They say they are happy now, and that's fine. When I stayed close to them, I told them that it's cool that they're happy, hopefully everything works out for the better for them. When they started talkin smack and telling me how they burned their letters and everything, I told them that if they want to talk shit, then fine, but don't do it to me because I'm still an active and I love my sorority, no matter what problems we're having.

I think the biggest problem is that they weren't even in the chapter for a year. Things get stressful and hectic around Rush, and I kept telling them that the sisterhood gets so much better after that week is over, it always does. They just didn't give it a chance. I mean, what are you gona do when something crappy happens in life? Give up instead of giving it a chance?

That's what's great about being in a sorority. Trivial problems teach you how to deal with stuff in the real world.