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I don’t want to over step any boundaries as I am not sure what your friend is going through. Not being fully cognizant of the details, I am not sure that I can provide totally pertinent advice. But I’ll make an attempt.
Everyone has a point in their greek experience when they just want to DA or leave or whatever. But if his issue is mainly about social problems he is enduring, then you need to explain to him that while it’s easy to escape temporarily, he’s just cheating himself. Really drive home the issue of regret. Tell him he never wants to regret leaving just because he had a few social things to work out. Tell him he is risking so much, losing a year of college experience and memories, losing a year of random bonding, a year of growth amongst his closest friends (you and other brothers) just because a few people? Girls? Whatever is getting him down. Tell him he can go home on weekends or take some time off. But don’t throw away everything he has developed at State.
Also, he is giving up his whole SDSU life because of social uneasiness. Ask him if he had a highly lucrative job that he loved, had amazing clients, a great boss, was highly involved with the company, but didn’t get along with 1 or 2 of his co-workers, would he transfer to another job? Sorry, I'm big on analogies. The point is he is going to have to deal with people and face difficult decisions his whole life. He can’t always just escape them. He has to develop personal strength. Think about himself and his friends. The people that matter. Ask him what he wants to remember about college. About his fraternity. He only has 4 years of college. Perhaps assure him that you will be there for him no matter what the decision and so will your brothers. Tell him you just want him to be happy and not have any regrets when all is said and done.
Hope this helps!
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