Getting back to the "job" example: say I interview at Greekchat Inc. and my friend worriedsenior works in the personnel department. Would it be fair of me to ask her to tell me about the other applicants, their chances, or anything her boss said about me? On the other side of the coin, would it be fair for her to pressure me into taking the job because they need a superduper salesperson, which I am, even though she knows I might hate the work environment?
The answer, of course, is no. I wouldn't put that pressure on a friend nor do I think she would put it on me. Since we're not all friends going into rush, that's where the rules come in.
Most of the strictest no contact rules, from what I've seen, take place at schools where the freshmen rush before school even starts. It's not like people have to go a whole year not talking to freshmen. I guess DePauw changed to deferred rush but didn't change the contact rules and everyone complained, and rightly so. Keeping the no contact rules in place defeats the whole purpose of deferred (i.e. to get to know the groups in a more "realistic" environment).
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