Oh Heather, you know I would never foam at the mouth about anything
Ali - here's the website for Pittsburgh's alum Panhel which would be the closest to you.
http://www.pittsburgh.com/community/groups/pghpanhel/
Right now they are on summer break, but you might want to try contacting them about this. It's a gross violation of Panhellenic rules and SHOULD NOT be allowed. In formal recruitment you have to meet each group at least once, no ifs ands or buts.