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Alright.

I am not condoning the entitlement mentality of today’s youth, a mentality I once possessed. But I do advocate love and an implicit trust factor in the parent child relation. In life, a child is reared to believe that the parents are the ever present allies. The figures that will support and love him/her endlessly. Now, if mutual respect and love is practiced, I believe that a child will respect the parents enough to help out with the financial burdens in life as they move from teenager to young adult.

I often see this situation as one in which the parents are to blame as well. We are all human and have flaws and I believe that if a child is simply cut off financially with no warning it is out of subconscious irritation of the parent, a “that’ll show my child how rough life really is without me!” idea. For this we use the euphemism “tough love.” This idea causes such strain in relationships. I have been there myself.

Now on the other hand, if you raise your child to expect to be “emancipated” at 18, then they are prepared. If this mentality is consistently implemented in the 18 years of rearing a child, the idea of independence, then I can not criticize this parenting method. Pardon my conjecture, but this sounds like the manner in which you were raised, Libra soul.

I Pmed DigitalAngel and she went to college for her father, he wanted her too. She was unhappy in general and it was reflected in her grades. She was pulled out of school and is being treated like she is 13 again, if not worse. She doesn’t have a soft mother figure any longer for whatever reason to comfort her. I believe this calls for sympathy.

More than anything, mutual respect and mature communication with parents are INCREDIBLY important factors during this awkward transition stage in one’s life. I think DigitalAngel is not looking for endless financial support, but respect from her father. That is something we all deserve no matter WHAT the situation. With that respect, comes love and understandment and when her father does eventually pass on, he will be remembered fondly as should any loving parent. So Shine, I am sure she doesn’t wish her father dead, but is just frustrated. I am sorry for your loss, but your level of grievance shows that you had a loving relationship with your father. I think that is all DigitalAngel needs. This all goes way beyond such the simplistic financial aspect!

LibraSoul, I am still shocked.

AchtungBaby-Thank you, I fully agree with you as well!