There is no such thing as a free ride, unfortunately. There is always a price to be paid, and the price for you is to abide by your father's rules. I suggest that you make life as easy for yourself as possible by obeying his rules. Do what he requires without him asking or telling you. Extend yourself to accomodate him. That way you can avoid any confrontation with him and earn his respect by demonstrating that you are a mature adult worthy of his trust. I hope my advice helps.
