[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

Yeah, but what might not be insulting to us, could be to somebody else. We’re living in sensitive times now. You can’t say the things on GreekChat today that you could 10 or more years ago. I do think it’d be nice to know what was posted though so we’ll know what it is that needs to be toned down. I don’t believe anybody on this thread was intentionally trying to insult someone else personally.

Yep.
I used to be like super outgoing — like… “talk to anyone, always making new friends kind of outgoing”. But over the years, that’s changed. Not because I’ve become cold or anti-social, but because I’ve seen how unpredictable people can be. Sensitivities have gotten louder, assumptions fly faster, and sometimes even the smallest comment gets twisted into something it was never meant to be. It’s really exhausting.

So these days, I just keep my circle small, my family close, and like three coffee friends who’ve earned my trust. That’s it. Not because I don’t like people, but because emotional safety matters. Energy is expensive. And once you realize how rare it is to meet people who get you without misreading you, you stop offering access to everyone.

That’s also why I ignore most people outside my bubble now. I mean, it’s not weird energy or anything like that, it’s self-preservation. Know what I mean? I’ve learned that kindness doesn’t require openness, and maturity sometimes means knowing when to keep the door closed. If that makes sense.