Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
It was fun. I’m not back home until tomorrow, which is only like a 6 hour drive. Staying the night at my sister-in-law’s before we go back home tomorrow morning.
lol
Possessive? No. Let’s use the right words. I’m exclusive, I’m observant, and I’m not about to look stupid on purpose. That’s it.
Did he try to get me back? C’mon, of course he did. For like two years until he graduated and even then, I was told from friends he came back looking for me, but by that time, I’d already transferred to Minnesota to prepare for vet school. I don’t remember everything but he came with the whole speech, “I didn’t cheat, I swear, you’ve got it wrong, please just hear me out…” Meanwhile the bag of returned gifts was already sitting on his porch like a surprise party he didn’t want.
Did I tell him I tapped into his voicemail? No. I didn’t need to. I knew, he knew, and the teddy bear laying face down on the front lawn knew too. I mean, it was obvious enough.
When I say dating me is like parking in a garage with security cameras, it means I don’t hover. I don’t stalk. I just don’t miss patterns, and I don’t ignore what I see. I’m not paranoid, I’m perceptive. And if a guy tries something stupid, he’ll catch himself on replay. I’m just not blind. I mean, I don’t sit around checking his phone or spying or anything like that. I just pay attention to red flags and I don’t pretend I didn’t see them. Trust is easy if a guy is trustworthy. But if he’s sneaky? I’ll figure him out every time, which is what I did to my ex. That’s all.
Did anyone see me drop the bag off? Maybe. I hope they did. I like people to know I clean up my peace when I’m done. Call it a teachable moment.
It’s not trust issues, Phrozen. I don’t have that problem. It’s called not being an emotional pawn. Look it up. I’m not damaged, I’m disciplined. I trust myself more than any excuses. Since then, I refused to let myself get messed with like that ever again. I wasn’t bitter. I wasn’t angry. I just learned to get smarter. So… guys like him, I left them in the “on sale/clearance aisle”, and that in itself is the very reason the same game won’t and hasn’t been played on me twice. That learning experience and discernment got me a good man. Truly a blessing.
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