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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands
When I said you can’t cook but still got wifed? Yeah… no questions here. Some trades speak for themselves. In other words…. you know your looks sealed the deal. Dudes are visual, it’s just facts Lol.
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I see what you’re doing here, Phrozen. But let’s be honest, looks might catch a guy’s eye, but I don’t believe it’s what keeps him. I mean, attraction wears off fast if there’s nothing attractive inside. I’m just grateful God gave me more than a “cute” face (and a man smart enough to notice). I mean, beauty is a bonus, yes, but I just think that it’s the internal beauty that’s the covenant. I just don’t think anyone can build forever on surface. Know what I mean?
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Originally Posted by AGDee
Total BS. She's intelligent, she's beautiful, she's strong, she's got a positive attitude but what sealed the deal with her and her hubby is their faith and their values. Any marriage based just on looks is doomed to fail. And she has so much more going for her than looks.
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Thank you, Dee, your words truly mean a lot to me. I couldn’t agree more about marriage. It’s about so much more than love or attraction. I just think it’s about faithfulness, friendship, forgiveness, and choosing to love every single day. And I really appreciate your wisdom.
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Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands
I agree, no argument there, she’s the whole package. I’m just pointing out the fact that the application got noticed because of the cover letter Lol. Men are visual, it’s wired in. We can’t help it. Y’all aren’t wired like we are. That’s why dudes and women don’t look at attraction the same way. Y’all can be with an ugly dude who treats you right. We can’t do that with chicks.
I met CG in real life and her looks aren’t even up for debate. I’m just pointing out the fact that she wouldn’t be wifey if she wasn’t packin the visuals. That’s just male to female biology. But what made it forever, that’s the character, the faith, the values and the other internal things you’re talking about. Her looks made dude say with the quickness.. “You don’t have to know how to cook” LMAO.
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Hilarious! Thanks, Phrozen. That’s really sweet of you. And yes, I know, guys are definitely visual. But it’s not just guys. Like most women, I notice looks in men too, I’m not gonna lie. But I’ve always been like, okay sure he’s cute, but can he show up? Does he have character? I needed someone who could love me through the hard stuff, not just the cute days. Looks are fun, but commitment and integrity are what keep me, and also what should keep a guy.
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Originally Posted by PrettyBoy
You’re both right, honestly. The truth is, men are wired to be visual — science backs that up, and you see it in Scripture too. Just look at how often beauty is described in the Bible as catching a man’s attention (Genesis 29:17, 2 Samuel 11:2). Physical attraction is often the doorway, but it’s not the foundation. Proverbs 31 reminds us that “charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. Beauty may open a man’s eyes, but character is what keeps his heart, unless his motives are selfish and he’s only pursuing what gratifies the flesh, not what honors God.
IMO, what Phroze is describing isn’t shallow, it’s biological and relational. A man’s first pull might be looks, and while visual cues can be a starting point, attraction is multifaceted and also involves personality, shared interests, emotional connection, along with faith, values, character and so much more. That’s the deeper spiritual principle here — beauty fades (Proverbs 31:30), but a godly character endures. The problem isn’t being drawn to beauty, it’s building on beauty instead of building on faith.
In the end, both are necessary in their own place. Attraction gets attention but character keeps commitment.
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Fixed your post for ya.
Still pushes like button.
