[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

LOL! You shut her down real quick. You’re a nice looking dude and what most chicks would call a good catch, PB, so I can see why she didn’t care about you being married. She wanted you for herself. Chicks don’t care about the ring on the finger anymore — not with a successful, good looking dude. Did your wife know about it?

Yeah, she knew. She met her and brought it to my attention before I knew, long before the plate of food was offered.

Back then, once a year I was required to attend this black-tie event in Detroit. It’s one of those formal, corporate things. I had been bringing my wife with me to it before we married. Brought her with me that night too. I had introduced her to folks I work with before, so she already knew most of them. But the “plate of food” woman was new like a few others that started with the company that my wife hadn’t met yet. That’s how they met.

I remember it like it was yesterday. My wife wasn’t mad, she just said “That woman in the red dress likes you. The one from your department. The way she looked at you every time you spoke. The way she tried to be near you without being obvious. Kept laughing at your stories a little too hard. Yeah… she likes you. I’m not worried and I’m not mad. Just wanted you to know I saw it.” Something to that effect. But she waited until we got to the car after the event was over to tell me. Long story short, she brought it to my attention so I handled it.

My wife has incredibly good discernment. A wife can sense (even without proof) when something “feels off.” It’s not paranoia, it’s discernment. Women know when another woman’s kindness has undertones, because they know the language behind the smiles. For some women, attention from a married man feels like a bigger “win” than attention from a single man. It’s twisted, but they see it as proof they’re desirable enough to pull someone already claimed. That’s why a lot of them don’t care. That’s all it is.