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You should only extend a bid to someone based on their OWN merit, not because they are related to a member.
If you don't want this person for a sister, don't bid her.

This is an excellent excerpt from AOII's magazine, but really it can be applied to ANY sorority....

A legacy should be a qualified potential member in her own right -- grades, activities, accomplishments, and overall compatibiltiy with the collegiate chapter are to be considered. Collegiate members are asked to give special consideration
to legacies during membership selection out of courtesy to the sorority sister to whom she is related.

Special consideration -- What does this mean? This does not imply that we should “bend the rules” or “lower the standards”
in order to issue an invitation to pledge to a legacy. This does not imply that we should hold our legacies to higher standards or
judge them differently than other potential members. In the words of Melanie Doyle, Executive Director of Alpha Omicron Pi,
we should give legacies special attention, our genuine friendliness, our family concern and the love they deserve during the recruitment process.

I hope that this helps you in your situation...