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Originally posted by AlphaXiDiva
Well, as far as I can see, James, thanks so much for dropping your knowledge...it's about time we stopped picking on neicy...well, most of us anyways...thanks also for trying to bring back a respectable tone to the thread..highly appreciated on this end.
As for christina houston, it's too bad the situation that we are all in. Even M Twilley. None of us will ever know what was said or not said but voted upon in her bid meetings. The main difference between the two women clearly is the acceptability factor. We may not liek to admit it, but it is harder to accept someone who is diffrent in a way you haven't been exposed to. You can't understand a lot about the person and who they are when you can't understand why they talk the way they do, or look the way they do.
Being a lighter skinned sistah who has grown up with the white kids, and is in a local sorority that is more closesly linked with WGLOs than with BGLOs, I must say a few things. I have experienced the need to "fit in". My hair is longish (passed shoulders) and I speak in a very proper tone...until I get around my black friends. Any of us who have had to be in different circles know what it is to adjust. There are nearly two separate worlds that I must answer to...even though I am not mixed. We live in a white world, therefore adjustment for black who wish to excel is mandatory. And that is where a lot of whites fail to relate. I am forced to adjust to whites unless I attend a HBC, or want to be "the black girl" in social situation rather than Ariane, who I actually am. Whites don't have this issue of fitting in. Unless you put yourself into a black environment...blacks don't get to "choose".
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You really hit on a lot of valid points with this part of your post. I belive it is something that people of color have always had to deal with in order to succeed in this world since the beginning of time
. Being "situation savy"
is something I believe that we grow up learning and continue to practice well into adulthood.
Seriously though, I honestly think that the reason why a lot of AfAm women do not pursue HWGLO's is because usually they have heard, experienced, interacted or seen a member of a HBGLO since they were young (due to the fact that membership is a LIFETIME committment, so being active in a sorority never stops or slows down after college). many do not experience or see HWGLO's until their freshmen year in college, which is at that point, you have to make a decision to Rush or forget about sorority life(since MOST HWGLOs prefer freshmen - or at least that is what I have gathered from convo's on GC. I know that it doesn't apply to all, just most). Also, I think it is simply just a matter of being comfortable around people that are similiar to you (these simliarities extend FAR beyond just race).