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We were too busy with our own stuff to worry about someone else’s house. And we can’t tell you what our sororities might do in a situation similar to yours, because every chapter of any of the 26 NPC sororities might handle it differently. I would hope that any group would be gracious and understanding to any PNM who cried, or fainted, or tripped and fell, or spilled her punch, or had to go to the bathroom, or even those who were rude to the sisters.

I hope that you will take this in the spirit in which it is shared: you don’t know why you were not invited back. It might have been because you cried, but it might have been because they felt you were not a good fit, or because they had to concentrate on a certain attribute like high gpa, or leadership skills, or athletes, or legacies.

However, it is over and done. You need to move on. You must be an alumna of the sorority you joined. If you are in college, as an alum you can attend the alumnae chapter meetings/events. If you have graduated, you can attend the alumnae chapter events/meetings, and I would encourage you to do so. I can tell you I have had more fun at alumnae events than at most of my collegiate events. I am with sisters from many different chapters, all over the country. It doesn’t matter to us what college our sisters attended, or if their collegiate chapter is active or closed (all 26 NPC sororities have chapters that have closed, even the sorority that you adored and wanted to join). Alumnae events offer the sisterhood without the time, expense ( and sometimes the drama) of college. Be proud of your sisterhood and work to keep it strong.