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Originally Posted by Cookiez17
All of this! Even though virtual recruitment had its downfalls, I noticed tent talk was down to nothing and PNMs were going off what it should be: conversations and the overall chapter vibes.
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Curious as to your source(s) for accessing tent talk across the NPC world? That's a broad statement and I couldn't imagine looking for tent talk anywhere online (why would I?), but maybe that floats your boat? I mean, I'm reasonably certain there was a lot of online chatter and texting that was private. I can say that at the UofAZ very little changed when there was virtual recruitment. Same old same old.
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Originally Posted by navane
Yes and this is true for many facets of life: college, jobs, sports teams, etc.
I just watched a documentary on PBS Independent Lens which is along these lines. The episode is called "Try Harder!" and it's about Lowell High School, the #1 public school in San Fransisco. The students at this school are extremely high achievers competing to get into the nation's most prestigious universities. These students would blow most other public school students out of the water at any other high school; but, here, they stress over not being the best of the best of the best.
Link "Try Harder!": https://www.pbs.org/independentlens/...es/try-harder/
My point is that PNMs clinging to this idea that they are surely qualified for all of the best top tier sororities can bring about disappointment when walking among other PNMs who are equally as excellent. It's hard not to feel like a failure in that environment. But it's important to keep a perspective on it....the big picture. That they *are* excellent, but so is everyone and thus the whole system is very strong (including the "mid-tier" sororities). It's good to have a grasp on that concept now, when they are young, so as to set themselves up to successfully navigate when they are competing in the real world later on. |
Thank you navane, carnation, FSUZeta, cheerio, and shadokat for your posts on the topic of PNMs and recruitment. Perfectly stated and I've copied your posts into a word doc to be quoted when the time comes (as it will, sure as the sun rises in the East). Navane, my mother graduated from Lowell as did a coworker. Talk about elitist and competitive. Yikes. They both made sure people knew where they went to HS. Seriously. Yes I'm rolling my eyes so far back I can see last year. Neither of them were anything special IMO.
Fact: All NPC chapters have some schools where the chapters are considered "top" and others where they are "bottom" (mine included). Do I care? No. Should I? Should anyone? *shrug*
SuzyinMD, harsh words also need to be said and heard. Not all life lessons come wrapped in pretty paper. As I remind myself frequently, in the immortal words of Sir Mick and Mr. Richards (aside: how is Keith still living? utterly amazed!): "you can't always get what you want". I believe that if you don't get something you think you want there is a reason for it and quite possibly (even probably) something better is coming along instead. What I gain from disappointment I've been able to use to benefit myself and others. Bottom line: I learned my place in the food chain decades ago, and am glad of it. "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off " (I hear my grandmother singing to me now). Resiliency needs to be coached and encouraged. Life is not fair. Nor do I expect it to be so. Stopped that expectation many many moons ago.
Go find a telescope and check out the comet before it's too late.