[FSUZeta]

I’m glad you joined us and I am sorry you feel what I wrote is harsh. Statements here can seem harsh, but reality often is. What I said is experience based-I have advised chapters, PNMs and their parents( and still do) and the phenomenon mentioned seems to be growing exponentially. PNMs and parents are shocked when their high achieving, pretty, sociable, accomplished, smart daughters don’t get asked back to Tau Tau Sigma( top tier sorority). They don’t realize that a high majority of the PNMs fit that description.


A mom in an advisory group I’m in had 2 daughters rushing. The younger daughter rolled with the punches all week and found her people. That chapter was a good, solid chapter, but on the campus is not considered top tier. The older daughter was dropped by the house she had singled out was the only one for her, and even though her remaining choices were fine chapters, in her eyes they didn’t measure up to the one that did not invite her back. Despite being advised to continue and see if any of her remaining chapters might be able to change her mind, she withdrew. Her mother reached out because her daughter regretted her decision and was hoping she might get picked up as a quota addition or snap bid ( I see many girls thinking this is an option). We ( ladies in other Panhellenic sororities and I) advised that, while she was eligible, it was a very small possibility that she be chosen. Those opportunities came and went and mom and daughter started hoping for a COB bid, but only to her chosen chapter. Her dream chapter was not COBing, and did not COB this semester. I advised mom that since younger daughter was so pleased with her chapter that she might begin inviting older sis over for a couple of meals and to just hang out at the chapter house, in the hopes that this chapter might COB in the spring, but daughter stubbornly refused because it was TTS or no one. So she sits in her dorm room miserable, due to her own decision. This is what I’m referring to, and what we see over and over and over. Yet it is the sororities that are called elitist.