In response to Mikki's question, I have had the same exact problem. I was told by my father that if I ever dated anyone that was not of my same background, I would be disowned. I have found a solution that works, at least for me.
I told my parents, before they met the man in question, that I was seeing someone I really cared about. I let them know that while I did not understand or agree with my fathers viewpoint (my mother does not care) I acknowledged that he had one. I also let him know that I was now an adult. I was treating the situation as an adult and I expected him to do the same. I wanted to be as happy as possible, and this man was so very good to me. I wanted them to meet him and not keep this portion of my life from them. I made a commitment to myself before the discussion that i would not allow it to become confrontational, and I let them know I did not want to fight.
Ya know, I was amazed at how it all went down. He was more receptive than I thought and agreed to meet him. I would love to tell you that my father accepted my boyfriend and all was well, but that is not the case. My father never fully accepted him, but at least we did not fight about it anymore and I was not hiding anything (Mom thought he was great!
). Most of all, my father was cordial to him when they did meet, something I was extremely concerned about.
As for whether or not to take parents feelings into consideration - let them know you are aware of the way they feel, but this is your life you are living, you are not finding a mate for them.
I know a discussion won't solve every problem, but it may help your family to see that there are worthwhile people everywhere and color does not have to be an issue.