Well, to be honest. I think you have a choice as to who you date. If it's outside your particular race, Great! Love is a wonderful thing and I'm happy that we all feel it. I've dated men outside of my race before. However, I have always found more white men attractive (I am white) than any other race. I don't know why that is, it could be based upon how my parents raised me, the fact that i'm white, or what have you. But I find myself also attracted to a certain type of white men as well. Very tall, thin, and dark hair. I've always seemed to go for that. So maybe it's the fact that I find certian things sexy. I go for tall, thin black me as well, but not as often. So I don't think that I base it on race all that much really, but Characteristics such as what I've mentioned and personality, humor, and intelligence also play a factor in my decision.
I'd like to bring up another factor for this topic. Parents. I've not been able to tell my parents when I've dated a man from another race. It's sad, I know. They believe that we should "stick to our own." They claim that they aren't racist, but that whites should stick with whites. . .etc. etc. So the question is, how do we deal with parents like mine with this issue? What percautions do we take? How do we prepare? Do we take into consideration what our parents think when we look for a mate?
What are your thoughts?
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