Honey I know what you mean about growing up in a "bougie" Baptist church. If my momma knew I clapped she'd DIE and if she knew I wore pants to church she'd turn over in her grave! lol
But personally, I think alot of these "traditions" in the church were man made with absolutely no biblical references to substantiate them.
In regards to gospel music, it IS evolving. But sometimes, I think some artist are missing the true sense of the word of praising God for mere entertainment. Bobby Jones....for example...is an entertainer. ....Anyways...
A person not strong in their faith may hither themselves to the word being sung (if they have a message) but how long will it last when the music stops? So in essence the parishoner has only been entertained not saved, healed, or delivered.
Considering that our world is changing, we too must change. But the individualistic question becomes is what we are singing relevant to what God wants us to do.