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Originally Posted by ASTalumna06
"There's really nothing else our organizations can do for us" and this is "unlikely to affect anyone except faithful alums" and now their effort and money "won't count"? You make it sound like alumnae are trying to buy their daughter's way into a chapter and this is the only benefit in membership they have left. If that's the case, I guess my membership and donations are meaningless because I don't have daughters. I don't know if it was your intention to say this, but wow this sounded all kinds of wrong.
Hey, we agree on something! I could get on board with the idea of a legacy policy that doesn't require carrying anyone through first round but that gives "preferential treatment" to legacies at pref. I do still think there will be some angry moms during first round wondering why their legacy daughters weren't given a chance, but clearly the anger level increases as rounds go on.
I guess the one reason I can't totally get on board with this concept though is the nagging question I keep coming back to: who's actually upset about this? Is it the legacy who was released, or mom who always pictured her daughter joining ABC sorority?
If it's only the latter, why are we clinging to these policies?
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Sometimes an alum works hard for a nearby chapter in hopes that they'll notice her daughter, in addition to wanting to work for her sorority. At times it works-- the chapter notices her work ethic, meets her daughter, and likes her. This past week, I've seen a lot of people sneer at women who hope or had hoped that their daughters would pledge their group and there is NOTHING wrong with that. They cherished their days as actives and would love to be there to initiate their daughters.
Sometimes the daughter wants this too and sometimes it's only mom. I have seen this with sisters too; sometimes they want to be sorority sisters as well but sometimes the younger one seeks something different.
As far as not continuing to support a chapter who dropped her daughter? I understand that. I know 3 different women who were working in their sorority chapter's kitchen during recruitment when someone came back and told them that the chapter had cut their daughter. Every one of those women left immediately and when their daughters pledged other sororities, the moms immediately started working their hearts out for the other sororities. Not a person who knew any of these women, both moms and daughters, faulted the moms for never darkening the doors of their chapters again.