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Originally Posted by AZTheta
Re: bolded #2. If your daughter attended pref, she was on the sorority's bid list. However, apparently she wasn't high enough on the bid list before they reached quota. Nothing "happened with calculations". That's how it works. It's math. And there's no "someone" to "fix or correct the mistake" because there wasn't a mistake. It's how the numbers worked out for your daughter. If it is helpful for you to learn more about RFM (release figures methodology) let us know. Because it really is math.
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100% this. It doesn't sound like there were any miscalculations at all.
Now, perhaps there was some dirty rushing going on, but...
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Originally Posted by Tdlegacy
On pref night she asked the girls in that sorority if she should intentionally only write down one choice. Two members told her separately to pref their house first but rank 2 sororities and that she had nothing to worry about should would be in their sorority inferring only ranking one would be a problem. She did that and on bid day she did not receive a bid from that house.
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Your daughter asked if she should put only their sorority down?
If that's the case, it sounds like she played a part in setting herself up for disappointment and perhaps made for an awkward situation for the active sisters. They might have even been pulling for her to join their sorority right up until she asked this question.
And it actually sounds like they gave her good advice in listing both sororities. Perhaps this was to assist your daughter in having a successful recruitment, or maybe it was to save themselves after she asked this question because it turned them off, or maybe it was for another reason entirely.
Were they in the wrong? Perhaps. Should your daughter have asked them that question? No - that was a discussion she should have had with her recruitment counselor.
We all learn, and sometimes it's the hard way. However, your daughter did receive a bid. She chose to decline it, and she has to live with her results and her decision. If she would still like to join a sorority, I would encourage her to try again the next time she's able and simply work on having good conversations with the active sisters, getting to know them, and letting the chips fall where they may without looking for the promise of a bid.
Good luck to her!