Valkyrie,
I swear we were separated by birth b/c I feel the exact same way on almost everything you say about any topic
. Growing up with parents fighting is not healthy at all and it has really hurt my outlook on marriage. They FINALLY got a divorce when I was 13 (Thank GOD). My grandparents were married for 65 years but my grandmother was miserable for many of those years b/c my grandfather cheated on her and would run off with other women-that is no way to live you life misearble for the sake of marriage. I am sure when she took the vows of marriage she wasn't expecting him to cheat on her.
I agree that alot of people are getting married to quickly. My borther married his ex wife after 6 months of dating-they just divorced last month after 2.5 years of marriage. I knew it was a mistake and my family and her family tried to talk them out of getting married and to date longer but they wouldn't listen. However, as said previously dating longer does not guarantee that it will work out. I think if I get married I will insist on counseling also even if things are peachy.
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Originally posted by valkyrie
Well, the thing is, though, that people may go into a marriage with the best of intentions, not even THINKING that they may ever want to get a divorce. However, sometimes (often, probably) things don't work out as we originally anticipated or hoped, and divorce becomes a possibility. You may have been with someone for several years before getting married, and it still might not work out. It happens all the time, and is unfortunate, but I think that if you are not happy in a marriage, you shouldn't stay in it. It's hard to have the same arguments over and over and over again and never get anywhere. Until you experience it, you can't really understand.
I don't know if divorce is always a bad thing for kids. My parents are still married, but honestly when I was younger I used to wish that they would get a divorce because they would fight (by fight I mean argue like cats & dogs) all the time. I love my parents very much, but that's not good for a kid, either.
Honestly, though, marriage is very, very hard. I don't really think that most people are suited for being with one and only one person for the rest of their lives.
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