[NYCMS]

What strikes me most about the OP's post is the mentality that comes through. Did anyone make you go through rush? Did anyone tell you that you couldn't rush during formal rush? Unless you had a gun held to your head, you made your bed and now you have to lie in it, to use an old phrase.

As for your sorority not being the best fit...guess what? That's the case for many sorority women! The difference? They find a way to make it fit! Whether a chapter has 40 or 400 members, there are members you can bond with. There are leadership opportunities where you can help guide the sorority in positive ways. Sorority membership offers many life lessons, such as making something work because you commit to it instead of giving up and complaining.

To change the bylaws as you suggest would unleash chaos...what's to stop a girl from "trying" out 3 sororities? From revealing deeply held secrets that tie members together? Worst of all? The approach you propose teaches young women that commitment means nothing, that when something is suddenly not what you want, you can drop it and move on. You won't find any agreement here.