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Oh my goodness. Just wanted to add that I fully agree with the ladies above. Many of us are much older, wiser women and we're able to see things from a different perspective--perhaps looking back on relationships we were once in. As alittleclueless says above, someone who loves you will support you and encourage endeavors that make you a stronger person. They bring out the best in you, not shame you or make you feel bad for choices that are clearly the RIGHT choices for you. You are young, and it's hard to be objective when you're in these early relationships, especially if he's your first love. If you were my daughter, I would strongly advise you to step away from this relationship. If he is your person, it'll work out at some point down the road, when you're both older/wiser/more mature. But I have a strong hunch that once you've taken a few steps away, you'll be able to see the things we're saying a lot more clearly. Being in a relationship with a non-controlling person will also be a huge eye opener for you. My actual daughter didn't really see how controlling her boyfriend was until she broke up with him. It was AWFUL--he did everything he could to make her feel like a terrible person for leaving him. She can now look back and see the signs she missed before and she's better for it. If you do choose to leave him and do not feel safe doing so, please involve a parent or another adult so that they can intervene if necessary--I had to do this with my daughter's ex. This got way off topic of being Greek, but it really has nothing to do with that. It's about being with someone who doesn't want you doing things that don't involve him, even though you've found a wonderful place to be. Please take good care.
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