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Originally Posted by thetalady

Not ALL of the sororities used to do this and it was certainly not to make sure she was happy. I know of specific instances where those groups of girls would actually go to another house's bid day celebration to talk a particular girl OUT of accepting her bid and have no Greek affiliation for a year, with the promise that they would extend a bid to her the following year. Panhellenic violation much??

That's crazy. I had some camp girls go through recruitment at some larger schools (Arkansas, Bama, etc.) and I was really surprised at the amount of "outside parties" allowed at the house's Bid Day celebrations (moms, dads, boyfriends, saw a few with high school friends from home, etc.) I'm sure it's all fine if you're happy (if you get your first choice and your whole fam and boyfriend is there it's probably cute) but I'm sure the dynamic changes if you aren't?

Example: You got your second choice and you're sad and there's all your friends from being all "we can't believe you didn't get Gamma Phi." Or you thought you were getting a bid to your mom's chapter and you did not, but there's your mom and you're both super sad.

As far as going house to house, that's crazy. Again, probably fine if you're both happy (crush goes Kappa, but Sigma member is happy for her and they hug it out) but if you're not happy about the result, or the member is salty about the result, I can see where it would get cray.

Even though 90% of the chapters at my alma mater are on the same street and feet away from each other, no one is really concerned about other chapters once the actual bid day run is over. You might congratulate a girl or two who you liked but ended up elsewhere, but that is really it.