[DGTess]

The problem with any definition is its intractability. And there will always be those "but what about ..." questions.

I think we need, rather than redefine, focus on recognizing. There is a difference, for example, between embarrassment and humiliation, between work (answering phones, cleaning silver, obtaining signatures) and humiliation, between discomfit and harm. But we live in a society that doesn't value individual thought, so we look for a definition that cannot be differently interpreted, and end up banning everything.

I cannot imagine there is a single greek-letter organization in the country that has disrespect or humiliation as one of its values.

But we also have raised generations of students who want so badly to fit in that they are unwilling to say "STOP. That's enough. I won't abase myself or allow you to abase me"