Well I have to say I am glad that is finally over!
. My D got her first choice, that was one of her favorites all along, from before arriving at IU (though she developed some other chapter crushes during rush)...
She is now a proud pledge of AEPhi!
She listened to herself and trusted the process and it all worked out. I think she will be very happy there.
Many thanks for all the great advice and insight into this process! it was very helpful and comforting!
PS
And in the spirit of the other dramas and bigger subjects that came up in this thread due to the C and D, I did go look on IU student life page at the disciplinary lists for chapters, which cover at least a year, and AEPhi does not appear on there
Nor did the other chapter that she took to pref...so that was comforting!