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Hey lovelies! I just came across this old thread I started last year and wanted to provide an update and some quick advice for anyone who might stumble upon it in the future! Also, thank you to everyone for the kind tips!!
I ended up sticking it out at my school for another 2 semesters (finishing sophomore year), and here's what I have to say from that experience. First, Greek Life can be AMAZING, however, your personal priorities will always be more important. In those 2 semesters, I held an exec. board position, took on a little sister I cherish, and even traveled across the country thanks to Alpha Sigma Alpha. So in all honesty, I highly suggest making the best out of whatever predicament you are in and seeing if you can make your current situation work, but ultimately, I fully support everyone putting their individual needs first, even if that means leaving Greek Life behind.
If you find that you are stuck between choosing your chapter or your education, please put your education first. I was able to make my time in my chapter fun, but throughout that time my general happiness didn't improve and I took on a lot of unnecessary stress in regards to everything outside of the sorority. If you are not fully happy in your situation, things can and will slip (i.e. your gpa, chapter duties, socializing, sleep...). In the end, I've come to terms with giving up active membership in ASA and going early alum. for the sake of finding a school that I'm both proud of and comfortable in, and that's okay; in fact, it's been wonderful rediscovering and challenging myself this year. And as several others stated, there are so many other campus organizations at every school to check out and fill that void, and if you're lucky, some schools have ways to keep their transfer students involved in the Greek community even if their chapter isn't present at that campus.
(BIG NOTE: CONSIDER YOUR FINANCES!! Doing 2 years and transferring isn't always cheap, especially if credits don't transfer with you! That is really the only thing I do regret about not transferring sooner, so the earlier you make a decision the better! And there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a semester or year off to figure things out!)
TL;DR: Your needs beat any Greek affiliation, because the memories you make when you are truly happy and proud can easily match the memories you make in a sorority, especially if the only thing keeping you happy at your school is that sisterhood. Try your hardest to make things work if you truly value the opportunities afforded by Greek Life, but research the heck out of your other options and do what is best for you in the long run.
Good luck to everyone trying to find their way in this mess of a world, things can and do work out, I promise! ALAM!! 💖💖💖
PS- If anyone needs someone to talk to about something like this, I'm completely open to PMs! You aren't alone in this! 💖
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