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Originally Posted by beckymer92

If it’s hard to tell girls apart between “tiers” and if all chapters have quality girls (as has been said over and over on this forum), then if a chapter supposedly rushes for looks, they will get good girls no matter what.

Nobody is boiling down the whole of a pnm (or women in general) to looks, just as chapters that want the cheerleaders or athletes aren’t boiling the totality of a pnm to that particular attribute. There is the (correct) assumption that girls who rush at any school tend to be well put together girls. That’s it.

Girls get dropped or picked because of their fashion sense or level of social skills or GPA or whatever. What’s the difference?

Advocating for interference with new school colonizing based on rumors and allegation?? That’s not only out of line, it’s vindictive. I see a lot of ruffled feathers over Alpha Phi’s success. I’m still waiting on that hard evidence that they ignore everything about a pnm except their looks.

Okay, I've read this entire thread, and I have a few things to add here. I want you to read the above post, because just a few posts back, you also stated the following:

Originally Posted by beckymer92

Rushing for looks is only a problem if you stereotype attractive women as unintelligent, unmotivated, uncaring and unkind.

Me? I'd rather be a member of an org filled with Amy Conley Barretts, Mia Loves, Lolo Joneses, Melania Trumps and Michelle Malkins any day over an org filled with the likes of Madeline Albright and RBG.

These two posts contradict each other in every single way. Furthermore, this post absolutely tears down two intelligent, accomplished women, one of whom happens to be an alumna of AEPhi. "Becky", these two posts demonstrate looking at a PNM's qualities based on their physical appearance, not by their intelligence, character, or any other qualities that define that individual as a person. These posts do not demonstrate how you would see a PNM as an actual person, with feelings, or a personality. These posts simply define how you look at a person's exterior. Sure, there are beautiful women who have equally beautiful personalities and can add so much value to a chapter, but if all you're looking at is a woman's physical beauty, then that chapter will miss out on so much potential greatness.

Originally Posted by bevinpiphi

Looks don't determine the quality of a woman.

Originally Posted by beckymer92

Exactly! Which means there is no causation between rushing for looks and poor outcomes/low-quality members.

I want to challenge you to simply think about what you've written. Your reply to Bev's comment is the biggest whoosh I've seen in a while, and honestly, it's quite disgusting. This reply suggests that chapters who do not rush for looks have poor outcomes and receive low-quality members, when read in the context of the rest of your posts.



However, there's a quote from Sarah Ida Shaw that I find to be so fitting in a time like this, even though it's attributed to Tri Delta's founding. If there's anyone who is struggling with what they're reading right now (just like I am), I hope it brings a little hope. "Let us found a society that shall be kind alike to all and think more of a girl's inner self and character than of her personal appearance."



I have to believe that the founders of each of our organizations would have wanted something better than shallow, looks-based recruitment, because each organization has a value system that is so much deeper than the outer beauty of its members. Outer beauty isn't a negative thing, but it doesn't create a sisterhood, nor does it sustain those bonds throughout the years.