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Originally Posted by 33girl
You seem to be confusing “not down with membership reviews” with “not down with closing a chapter for any reason at all.” Yes, there are reasons chapters are a hot mess RFM wise and something needs to be done, but I don’t think a membership review is the way to do it.
I’m not in favor of making members explain why they are worthy of membership. I’m not in favor of making members say who they think who’s a good brother/sister. I’m not in favor of asking someone to inform on their big, or little, or someone else they’re close to. I’m not in favor of a national volunteer who has known members for 2.5 seconds deciding who is “good” and who is “bad.” It usually seems like an effort to not close the chapter and stay open in some fashion, rather than close and have to go back into the expansion churn. But if you’re hanging on to Mount Rushmore with your fingernails, how on earth is that going to be a pleasant or positive experience for the members involved?
If a chapter has a clique or group that is making things awful, maybe HQ coming in and doing a review would eliminate that. But it’s all negative from what I can see; it turns HQ into the bad guy, and it hasn’t helped the members learn how to resolve conflict on their own.
We all need to be honest and realize that a lot of the time, loyalty to chapter sisters/brothers is greater than loyalty to the national organization. And if we have a problem with that, then we (the IFC and NPC) need to radically change the way we select new members.
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33, I don't see that confusion in what zbxo wrote in her post so I don't know where you got that. I also don't see that you answered her question about advising/house corp. That's your prerogative, of course, not to answer (which is my word of the day apparently) (and now I have a godawful ear worm). Also consider I spent the afternoon watching a Federal Court Judge avoid and evade answering direct questions; I started charting the pragmatic violations committed in an effort to keep from smashing my television in frustration ("ANSWER THE DAMN QUESTION, WILL YOU????" I screamed repeatedly).
What you describe as membership review is not at all what I have experienced. Is it what you have gone through? Yikes. I do think there is validity and value in having members identify the "why" of their membership. You and I already disagree about the usefulness of charter review. Would be interesting to see/read what other NPC members think.