[*winter*]

I'm going to hazard a guess here. Do you have a hard time connecting to people? When you said you didn't know how to reach out and become friends with the sorority women in your classes or organizations it made me wonder? Maybe in recruitment, you came across as awkward or really shy. I have a sister (Gamma Sigma Sigma) who went through NPC rush twice and was not selected both times. She fits into the above description. However, once we got to know her, she is a lovely person. Her personality just doesn't work with the quick pace of recruitment. She needs time to get to know people. It took her pretty much a semester to really find her niche. Someone like this is going to do pretty poorly in formal, and even informal recruitment. Maybe you could do better in a service organization.