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I think it's important to realize that many girls don't find that "automatic click" during rush - as others have said, it takes work to find you way in a chapter and I think nowadays some PNMs think they're supposed to feel that way from the pref party right into Bid Day. Not always. Read enough threads on here and you'll learn that many women took a bid even though they were unsure if it was a fit (some who were highly disappointed with their bid but then came to totally love it, couldn't imagine being anywhere else - that's what we mean by "trust the process"). Then they did everything to get to know members - hanging out at the house, inviting their sisters out, throwing themselves into events, doing what it takes to build friendships.

The point is that if you do join a sorority, you won't necessarily have the warm and fuzzy "oh my gosh, this is IT" feeling and it will take work. Even when girls get the house of their dreams, as I did, it still takes work. As outgoing as I am, I remember being a bit overwhelmed on Bid Day - but I went to my chapter house every single day for lunch, worked to get to know girls, etc. It takes time.

I wish you luck, please let us know how things go.