[phoenix16]

Amen! I never would have chosen to join my chapter after the first round of recruitment, but by the end I was hooked. It took spending time with sisters and being involved to turn the sorority from a group of women into a family! After my first recruitment as an active, I was heartbroken to see our chapter endure trash talk and to be waiting for women on bid day only to have them show up in tears, or not at all. Yes, not all women would fit into our chapter, but it hurts to have your open arms and love spurned. The women who gave us a chance and then dropped for whatever reason are often still friends with women in the chapter. There aren't any hard feelings if that's honestly what you feel you need to do after giving the chapter (any chapter!) some time.