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Aiya,
Okay, you have an interesting problem. First, I'm really rather uncomfortable with what your friends did to you in regards to promising you a bid when they didn't have the right or authority to do so. I understand your reasons for being uncomfortable about going through formal rush again, but it is set up the way it is for a good reason. It gives everyone a chance of seeing each and every house and the sisterhoods that reside within them. I understand that you have been at school a little longer than your typical pnm, and that you have your heart set on a specific chapter, but I do believe that amazing things can happen during formal rush, minds and hearts can be changed, and women end up where they never thought they would but were always meant to be. I'm at odds with the fact that your group of friends kept you out of that experience by promising a COB that is now nonexistent.
All right, enough talk about how great formal rush is and onto some talk of resolving your problem.
First, although you have your heart set on one and only one chapter, let me make it clear that all the chapters at UF have unique and special sisterhoods. The bond that you see between your friends in the one chapter you like is, I'm sure, also evident at other sororities at UF. Therefore if you have a chance to go to a COB event at any sorority this fall definitely give it a chance.
In addition you will read on other UF posts that Delta Zeta sorority is colonizng at UF this year. From what I've read from other UF pnms going through recruitment, the DZ presentation was fantastic. Delta Zeta is an extremely well regarded national organization with a reputation for very strong colonizations. Their IHQ gives enormous support to new chapters. This is an amazing opportunity to enter into a sisterhood and shape it from the ground up. I'm certain they will be attracted to mature and motivated women to help them get started, I cannot imagine how exciting this would be!
So my advice is again, to keep your mind and eyes open to all the options when it comes to participating in Greek Life. If other chapters do COB events, try them out. If Delta Zeta does more events, go and meet them.
I hope you do and I hope you find someplace where you can contribute.
Fraternally,
violets
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