It's stuff like this that makes me hate formal rush. Rush is supposed to be such a great time and so many end up getting hurt. Our dirty rushing problems happened after bids were handed out. We got a group of excellent women, and with a small school like I go to, the chapters end up fighting over the same 15-20 favorites (rush numbers were REALLY low last year). So our chapter and two others each ended up with a mix of other great girls as well as some of the "favorites." Well, one of these two other chapters would call our new members that they wanted, invite them out to their events and flat out ask them why they joined us. They'd tell them how they should've joined their group, and if they depledged, they'd be guaranteed a bid. This same chapter did this to another chapter as well, even though they made quota and were well above ceiling. They even put their NMs on our NMs, so their roommates and new friends were pressuring them to depledge.
So these poor NMs who are 17/18 and have been on campus for about two weeks are being rushed by another sorority that isn't bothering to tell them that they have to wait a year after depledging. We couldn't tell them, since none of the girls in question ever directly told us that this is what happened out of loyalty to their "new group." There were three girls, I think (which is a good number when quota's 8 or 9, from what I remember), who ended up depledging and rushing this other sorority at the end of the year.
Guess what? Only one got a bid, and our chapter and another threw a FIT because they hadn't waited a year. They almost lost her, but in the end we let them take her because it's not this girl's fault. The other two girls didn't get bids, and one ended up transferring because of it. And the chapter that did this, which has apparently been doing this for YEARS, had to put on a 10 minute presentation about "rush rules" as their sanction. However, the greek life office playing favorites is another rant.
